Kevin, posted this comment on Jul 25th, 2008

That was the most ridiculous advice I’ve ever heard. If anything do the opposite

a fool, posted this comment on Jul 25th, 2008

Since you read the advice, and didn’t hear it, I assume you
aren’t going to College.

a fool, posted this comment on Aug 4th, 2008

Alas, you are wrong. I have been to two Universities and am
telling the entrant how to gain attention in the right way,
how to avoid attention in the wrong way. You are ‘going’
you haven’t ‘been’, and if you go there and get yourself
mixed up in all the drinking, drug taking insanity, you will
not merely do badly in your academic work, you’ll be taken as
a clown. You’ll be one of those jerks who used to….

If you follow my advice, you’ll wind up having a lot of
useful social interactions without the dramas. Write again
in January, and tell me who is right…you, with all the
confusion, or me with the focus.

a fool, posted this comment on Aug 15th, 2008

Well, I’m sure you’ll do real great in college wtf since you
don’t know anything, but are sure you know everything.

A FOOL, posted this comment on Aug 18th, 2008

As serfs, clowns, the usual flotsam found on a University
campus, Alex, you couldn’t possibly follow this advice.
It would interfer in your binge drinking, drug usage
sexual experimentation.

As I indicated in the second paragraph; ’serfs are running
up and down’, you, alas are a serf, destined to waste four
years of your life and graduate capable of working at
Burger King.

a fool, posted this comment on Aug 27th, 2008

There are those who go to college like it’s Disney World
waste four years, then realise, they don’t have the grades
to get to grad school, they don’t have the skills to get
anything much in way of a job, and find themselves having
to play ‘catch-up’.

So where a Cool character could get into the better Grad
programs, or get that better job, the serf, whose spent
his four years binge drinking, screwing everything that
moved, and taken courses in drugs, is now knocking on
doors, taking something job that doesn’t even need a
degree, and then, years later, paying through the nose
for some qualification…

i.e.

the High School graduate who went into real estate
and done the little courses to be licensed, and now
has a decent practice, contra the college grad who
comes in, has to take the same little course, and starts
four or five years behind that High Schooler.

But it’s your choice.

As a Graduate of 2 Universities + Professional School,
and went to school with lots of kids who drank, used
drugs, played cards all night, and had more affairs
than days in a year.

They are managing a Burger King.

Mr T, posted this comment on Sep 26th, 2008

Anybody who orchestrates their every movement like this is going to be seen as fake and unlikeable. Grades are important, and you should work hard – but that doesn’t mean you can’t have fun and be yourself as well. I graduated with excellent grades, a couple of failed relationships that have made me wiser and stronger and many lasting friendships, more than one of which began with a drunken night out.

a fool, posted this comment on Sep 26th, 2008

Excuse me? College? The pinnacle of pretention? Fake? There is
no such thing as real in your freshman year, it’s one bloody
psycho-drama. Further, ‘yourself?’ this is college…people
are looking for themselves, and some don’t find themselves
until after Ph.d.

For every frosh who survives binge drinking, wild sex, etc,
there are many more who don’t. Many more who really do screw
up their lives…(check Burger King)

Sure, Mr. T. you are part of the 1%…but who is yourself?
A drunk? Why bother? I mean seriously…did you need the
angst?

College alumni, posted this comment on Oct 29th, 2008

Everyone who is saying what she wrote is dumb is probably doing the things she is telling you not to do but in actuality thoose things are correct and a good way to get in an out of college with no drama. and let me tell you after highschool drama is for children and you look very stupid 21 years old fighting over a cutty buddy. all in all i completly agree with everything on this article, and for all the highschool students if its not popular in colleg its probably the right thing to do. for example if everyone is smoking and drinking, that means if everyone is doing it you dont have to you can watch the negetive effects on them and dont hurt or harm yourself

a fool, posted this comment on Oct 29th, 2008

I’m glad there’s another alumni who understands the point

today, posted this comment on Dec 6th, 2008

there are some kids in my college who seem to live by your advice, challenging the professors and appearing standoffish, whatnot. they are labeled huge tools and shunned for the most part. perhaps your advice is how college, as an education-seeking-experience, *should* be, but it’s highly unpractical and limiting. btw, I go to a top university, and the people who do the best out of school are those who work hard, party harder (coke/hard liquor/casual sex/complete debauchery), and build amazing connections through socializing and the greek system. just my two cents.

a fool, posted this comment on Dec 7th, 2008

There is life after college; and when you are known as
the party guy, you are not going far in your social
network, save if it’s Daddy’s company.

I have sat on Boards in which a ripe candidate is
disqualified because someone, prob. one of those
despised geeks, recalls; “I think he may have a
drug problem, cause I went to college with him.”
Or, “I hope he’s settled down since graduation.”
Now you know he’s not getting that job.

Summer camp is different from college.

anonymous, posted this comment on Feb 15th, 2009

this person has no life… no one follow their advice

a fool, posted this comment on Feb 16th, 2009

losers are followers. They are drunk, high, clowns, and flunk. They get
Cs and when it’s time for a job, they are last choice. Try to get it down
that once you leave college Mommy and Daddy are not supposed to be
taking care of you, you are supposed to be able to get a job and take
care of yourself, (gasp).

As for some reason many employers want references, those who follow my
advice can list Professor X and Dr. Y. Those who don’t can list the cable
guy and the one who serves beer at the pub.

hahahaha, posted this comment on Feb 23rd, 2009

honestly you guys are crazy, you just have to do what works for you, theres not one answer to the question. im a partier, i blaze trees everyday and drink 2 nights on the weekends and i got my circle of friends, we have a great time. I have a 3.3 gpa at my new school and i had a 3.5 at my one that i was at last year(i transfered to a wayyy more prominent school). I sucked in high school and smoking weed made me realize what was important. Different things work for different people.

Party hard study hard cause its not that hard

a fool, posted this comment on Feb 23rd, 2009

well, if you live to 40 without numerous health problems, okay.
If you don’t, well, then I guess you’ll consider that just maybe
your liver is shot, your lungs are crap, you are morbidly obese and that might just have something to do with your college time.

wow, posted this comment on Mar 25th, 2009

Really, like the guy above me said,there is not one answer on how to “act” during college. Sure I agree with you that hard party people will be thought of as clowns…but that doesn’t mean you can’t occasionally party when you want to. You seem to be a very logical, step by step person, that isn’t how relationships work. You can’t completely ignore everyone for 2 weeks, then make a clever comment in class, and be expected to be a leader that everyone likes…that’s ridiculous. If i knew that someone actually did that to make friends and relationships…they would not be cool in my book. Also, as the author of this piece of writing, you shouldn’t be so close minded. You seem to be attacking everyone that doesn’t agree with you, and believe me, most people don’t. Learn how to argue, I doubt you went to college, be respectful of another opinion.

My 2 cents– If you want to be “cool” be outgoing, network, socialize, be responsible but also experience the world. Sure, being on top of school work and getting good grades will make you a good student, but not necessarily cool. Believe me, by following this writer’s advice you will be though of “mysterious” if anything. You are thinking so black and white–Party goer= bad student= bad grades= no life after college= not cool, you cannot categorize like this.

a fool, posted this comment on Mar 26th, 2009

I have two degrees and attended professional school. I can tell you this, you don’t want to be know as Drool’s friend or get yourself caught up in some drama you know nothing about.

You need to get the ‘lay of the land’ so that for the first two weeks while you are being that serious student you are also picking up what is really going on.

At college you’ll find people are looking, and keep moving on. The two weeks gives them a chance to burn off their confusion.

Wow, you make assumptions and are at the stage, ‘hurry up and finish typing so I can disagree with it.”

wow, posted this comment on Mar 27th, 2009

A fool said, ” Wow, you make assumptions and are at the stage, ‘hurry up and finish typing so I can disagree with it.” —Isn’t that exactly what you did in your comment. Am i supposed to suddenly agree with you just because you say so. Maybe your method works, in my opinion, all it would really do is classify you as a person that doesn’t want to socialize. If there was someone in my class that didn’t speak for two weeks I would just assume they ares shy, naturally introverted, or socially inept. And one random 7 minute long smartass remark wouldn’t change my first impression, nor the impression given in those two weeks of you. I probably be more tolerant of your opinion If you acted like it was an opinion, not a cold hard fact everyone should follow( as you so proudly demonstrated in your comments).

Cool is not an act, it’s just a way of going about things. Some times cool people are loners, although rarely. If you want to be cool-”be yourself”, this is vague advice, but don’t put on face, or use predetermined routines to gain friends. And like i said before, be responsible, but still experience college life, everything in moderation.

a fool, posted this comment on Mar 28th, 2009

First of all, when you walked into your first class in Sept. how many people did you talk to? See? Maybe the ones next to you, but you have no idea who is in the class. Hence, you wouldn’t know that I left the class and went to the library to study, to the bar to drink, to my room to sleep.

In two weeks I expect you to recognise at least 50% of the people in your class. Maybe spoke to 10%. Maybe you went to the Pub and saw a couple of familiar faces, maybe you went to the study hall, saw a couple. For those first two weeks even if you think you are being open and friendly, you are on a campus with thousands. You can’t know everyone.

Second, if the first time you notice Fool is when Fool is in a discussion with the professor about some little known facet of history, or a particular interpretation of a novel, or the difference between Cuban Spanish and Mexican Spanish, etc. you’re opinion will be diff. than if the first time you
see Fool, it is drunk and disorderly, or walking across the roof top, or having a fight with another one, etc.

wow, posted this comment on Mar 29th, 2009

“First of all, when you walked into your first class in Sept. how many people did you talk to? See? Maybe the ones next to you, but you have no idea who is in the class. Hence, you wouldn’t know that I left the class and went to the library to study, to the bar to drink, to my room to sleep.

In two weeks I expect you to recognise at least 50% of the people in your class. Maybe spoke to 10%. Maybe you went to the Pub and saw a couple of familiar faces, maybe you went to the study hall, saw a couple. For those first two weeks even if you think you are being open and friendly, you are on a campus with thousands. You can’t know everyone.”

These two paragraphs make sense. I can see how maybe people will start making rumors about “that mysterious guy”– just never really saw it that way. But what I am saying is that you would have to do a lot more than make one spontaneous remark after two weeks to actually make friends. In order to be cool–you actually have to be cool. So say your method works. After two weeks of getting a lay of the land, and making those “show stoppers” in every class–what then? A few clubs, some mingling here and there, that’s it? I mean in order to be considered cool wouldn’t you actually have to open up, be outgoing, make a huge effort to network and really present yourself as your own man—give off a “cool” persona that the few naturally cool people instinctively have.

a fool, posted this comment on Mar 29th, 2009

So there we are in class, I’m sitting in the first row, doing my work. No one notices I’m alive until my first ‘performance’.

First impression. You got one chance to
make that first impression.

So we all saw Dougie, he was puking his cuts out after a long night.
“Oh you mean that jerk who got drunk at the pub?”

And we all saw Cathy, she was dressed like a Madonna wannabe…
“Oh, you mean ‘Madg?’ we giggle when someone speaks of her.

But the one who stood gave a brilliant deduction in that Anthropology
class? The one who gave us a talking point;
“Ya know I never thought of it like that!”
we say as we repeat the remark.

So now we WANT to know this one. And so we go and introduce ourselves. Cool is polite, friendly, normal, and unless s/he makes a total idiot of him/herself that first night at the pub, or at the fete, or whenever, we START with a positive image.

Cool gets ‘networked’ Cool is ‘invited’ to join our group it upgrades our group for others to see Cool with us. We must be cool for Cool to hang with us.

Remember, no one knows who we are, we’ve just entered this college. We are all unknown quantities. What you want to do as Unknown Quantity is be someone other people want to know. And you do this by becoming a Known Quantity of Coolness.

Maybe spoke to 10%. Maybe you went to the Pub and saw a couple of familiar faces, maybe you went to the study hall, saw a couple. For those first two weeks even if you think you are being open and friendly, you are on a campus with thousands. You can’t know everyone.”

These two paragraphs make sense. I can see how maybe people will start making rumors about “that mysterious guy”– just never really saw it that way.

But what I am saying is that you would have to do a lot more than make one spontaneous remark after two weeks to actually make friends. In order to be cool–you actually have to be cool.

So say your method works. After two weeks of getting a lay of the land, and making those “show stoppers” in every class–what then? A few clubs, some mingling here and there, that’s it? I mean in order to be considered cool wouldn’t you actually have to open up, be outgoing, make a huge effort to network and really present yourself as your own man—give off a “cool” persona that the few naturally cool people instinctively have.

Tori, posted this comment on Jun 1st, 2009

I think it just depends on who you want to be cool with.

a fool, posted this comment on Jun 1st, 2009

College is not a career. You are there to gain an education to get a good job in life. You might want or need to go to graduate school. You want the impression left in the mouths of the faculty and the student body to be such that you make the right impression.

I have sat on boards in which the fact that Denny was ‘drunk or high’ all the time, or where Cathy is “An intellect rivaled only by that of garden tools.”

Peter, posted this comment on Jul 18th, 2009

I will preface my comment by saying that I understand where you are coming from with regards to the degree of superficiality in college. Any college student/grad has experienced this in some capacity.

Yet, I am unable to understand how your advice helps an incoming college student become “cool.” Most young adults, save the highly independent who would not need a website like this for advice, judge their “coolness,” by the way that others see them. As such, many people attempt to create an image about them which can turn into stereotypes such as jock, prep, artist, etc. These broad classifications polarize individuals and draw them toward one social group or the other, thus reducing the level of individuality and sincerity. I believe this contributes greatly to the atmosphere of “fakeness,” especially in the early goings of college. Your advice does not seem to be targeted at a particular demographic, but seems to offer general college advice. How then are you different from the fraternity recruiter who seeks to homogenize an entire population of students by suggesting that they adhere to a strict course of action and maintain a specific image? Take a highly outgoing, yet still intelligent, individual for example who may succeed of his own means would have to act quite contrary to his nature to follow your advice. His college career would be no more enhanced by your advice. Your brand of advice seeks to squeeze highly unique individuals into the extremely narrow mold of the “casually brilliant student.” Those people who quite naturally fit that description may be admired and respected, but only if they are in fact as they seem. Your advice seems to only assist students in creating the illusion that they are this “casually brilliant,” person when they may, in fact, be anything but. That in of itself seems highly fake.

You cannot design a wholesale plan for effectively integrating every student into the college community because everybody is different. You can, however, offer advice on how to prioritize and accomplish your collegiate goals. College is a time for intellectual and emotional growth when young adults figure out who exactly they are and where they want to take their lives. Therefore, the best advice fosters such growth without the compromise of individuality.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Jul 18th, 2009

I read your response a couple of times and haven’t a clue what you’re on about. I get the feeling, neither do you. One of the probs at college is that you start with an assumption that everything needs to be intellectualised and over complicated.

It is far simpler than you think it is. You simply don’t play by the ’script.’ You don’t ‘hook up’ and ‘drink up’ and ‘drug up’ from day one. You are really there, (gasp) to read your book. Now if you read your book, if you learn your subjects, you might get a real job when you leave. You might even have a career.

If you treat your college years as one big play pen where nothing counts, thinking everyone will forget you were the character who had sex with everyone, was always drunk or high, it doesn’t happen.

You don’t have to join a frat/soro. all you have to do is create the kind of mystique so that people believe you are intelligent. And this is how you do it.

BTW if you do learn your subjects, if you do well on exams, you won’t be fooling anyone into thinking you know your stuff, you wil know your stuff.

Peter, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

t’s clear that you have completely missed the point that I was making, so I will restate it more simply. Furthermore, at no point did I support the regular use of drugs or alcohol. I did, however, suggest that this “casually brilliant,” air which you suggest that incoming freshmen put on does not make sense for all or most people. What you are describing is destined to be an incredibly small niche, because the casually brilliant individual can only thrive and be recognized if he stands out. If you are suggesting that only these people become succesful later in life, than you are espousing a degree of elitism that is truely rare. On another note, I was certainly not suggesting that people join fraternities. I was drawing a comparison between the advice that you are giving and the endoctrination which pledges receive at a fraternity. In both situations, specific rules for conduct are given to maintain a certain image.

You have made it clear that you believe that partying (which includes sex, alcohol, and recreational drug use) and success in college are mutually exclusive. I do not condone the use of drugs for recreational purposes. However legally consuming alcohol and having sex are not NECESSARILY going to make a person unsuccessful. There are plenty of people who screw up and plenty of people that manage to succesffuly balance these activities and schoolwork.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

You are in college because you are supposed to be bright.
Maybe brilliant. Who knows…

You let the first two weeks of craziness pass…if you’ve been to college, you know the first two weeks are like the end of summer camp.

Stay out of it.

When everyone settles down, you’ll be the mystery…no one will be sure who you are and create their own fantasies.

As you are ‘bright’ the others will want to befriend you, because there are others who are really there to read their book, and they have futures.

The kind of silly partying only kills brain cells, gets you involved in other dramas. You know the diff between the
kind of ‘victory’ party or whatever and the Friday insanity that happens.

You are there to read your book, not to get into dramas
which you can get into after graduation.

The priority is to insure you graduate some place near the top of the class. Maybe you might want to go to grad school…professional school, get a good job.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

You are in college because you are supposed to be bright.
Maybe brilliant. Who knows…

You let the first two weeks of craziness pass…if you\’ve been to college, you know the first two weeks are like the end of summer camp.

Stay out of it.

When everyone settles down, you\’ll be the mystery…no one will be sure who you are and create their own fantasies.

As you are \’bright\’ the others will want to befriend you, because there are others who are really there to read their book, and they have futures.

The kind of silly partying only kills brain cells, gets you involved in other dramas. You know the diff between the
kind of \’victory\’ party or whatever and the Friday insanity that happens.

You are there to read your book, not to get into dramas
which you can get into after graduation.

The priority is to insure you graduate some place near the top of the class. Maybe you might want to go to grad school…professional school, get a good job.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

You are in college because you are supposed to be bright.
Maybe brilliant. Who knows…

You let the first two weeks of craziness pass…if you\\\’ve been to college, you know the first two weeks are like the end of summer camp.

Stay out of it.

When everyone settles down, you\\\’ll be the mystery…no one will be sure who you are and create their own fantasies.

As you are \\\’bright\\\’ the others will want to befriend you, because there are others who are really there to read their book, and they have futures.

The kind of silly partying only kills brain cells, gets you involved in other dramas. You know the diff between the
kind of \\\’victory\\\’ party or whatever and the Friday insanity that happens.

You are there to read your book, not to get into dramas
which you can get into after graduation.

The priority is to insure you graduate some place near the top of the class. Maybe you might want to go to grad school…professional school, get a good job.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

You are in college because you are supposed to be bright.
Maybe brilliant. Who knows…

You let the first two weeks of craziness pass…if you’ve been to college, you know the first two weeks are like the end of summer camp.

Stay out of it.

When everyone settles down, you’ll be the mystery…no one will be sure who you are and create their own fantasies.

As you are \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’bright\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ the others will want to befriend you, because there are others who are really there to read their book, and they have futures.

The kind of silly partying only kills brain cells, gets you involved in other dramas. You know the diff between the
kind of \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’victory\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ party or whatever and the Friday insanity that happens.

You are there to read your book, not to get into dramas
which you can get into after graduation.

The priority is to insure you graduate some place near the top of the class. Maybe you might want to go to grad school…professional school, get a good job.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

You are in college because you are supposed to be bright.
Maybe brilliant. Who knows…

You let the first two weeks of craziness pass…if you\’ve been to college, you know the first two weeks are like the end of summer camp.

Stay out of it.

When everyone settles down, you\’ll be the mystery…no one will be sure who you are and create their own fantasies.

As you are \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’bright\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ the others will want to befriend you, because there are others who are really there to read their book, and they have futures.

The kind of silly partying only kills brain cells, gets you involved in other dramas. You know the diff between the
kind of \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’victory\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ party or whatever and the Friday insanity that happens.

You are there to read your book, not to get into dramas
which you can get into after graduation.

The priority is to insure you graduate some place near the top of the class. Maybe you might want to go to grad school…professional school, get a good job.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

You are in college because you are supposed to be bright.
Maybe brilliant. Who knows…

You let the first two weeks of craziness pass…if you\\\’ve been to college, you know the first two weeks are like the end of summer camp.

Stay out of it.

When everyone settles down, you\\\’ll be the mystery…no one will be sure who you are and create their own fantasies.

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kind of \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’victory\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ party or whatever and the Friday insanity that happens.

You are there to read your book, not to get into dramas
which you can get into after graduation.

The priority is to insure you graduate some place near the top of the class. Maybe you might want to go to grad school…professional school, get a good job.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

You are in college because you are supposed to be bright.
Maybe brilliant. Who knows…

You let the first two weeks of craziness pass…if you\\\\\\\’ve been to college, you know the first two weeks are like the end of summer camp.

Stay out of it.

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kind of \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’victory\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ party or whatever and the Friday insanity that happens.

You are there to read your book, not to get into dramas
which you can get into after graduation.

The priority is to insure you graduate some place near the top of the class. Maybe you might want to go to grad school…professional school, get a good job.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

You are in college because you are supposed to be bright.
Maybe brilliant. Who knows…

You let the first two weeks of craziness pass…if you’ve been to college, you know the first two weeks are like the end of summer camp.

Stay out of it.

When everyone settles down, you’ll be the mystery…no one will be sure who you are and create their own fantasies.

As you are bright the others will want to befriend you, because there are others who are really there to read their book, and they have futures.

The kind of silly partying only kills brain cells, gets you involved in other dramas. You know the diff between the
kind of ‘victory’ party or whatever and the Friday insanity that happens.

You are there to read your book, not to get into dramas
which you can get into after graduation.

The priority is to insure you graduate some place near the top of the class. Maybe you might want to go to grad school…professional school, get a good job.

Peter, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

You have failed to address any of my points of contention. Instead, you see fit to repeat what you have written in your original posting. This is the mark of an inflexible mind.

P, posted this comment on Jul 26th, 2009

You have failed to address any of my points of contention. Instead, you see fit to repeat what you have written in your original posting. This is the mark of an inflexible mind.

P, posted this comment on Jul 27th, 2009

For someone with two degrees, you have remarkably poor grammar.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Jul 28th, 2009

Let me see if I can understand your point; dfrink/screw, in moderation, get around to your work if and when you feel like it,
follow the crowd, and you’ll be fine.

If it works for you, great…

Char, posted this comment on Aug 30th, 2009

I liked this.
It’s true.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Aug 30th, 2009

Too many people think college is summer camp. Many are away from Mommy & Daddy for the first time and go into a frenzy of
self indulgence. Others wander around in a state of ‘Lost’.

What this article seeks to do is get to basics; the reason one is at college, and the fact there is life after college, and one does not wish to spend their lives living down their behaviour at college

actuallyincollege, posted this comment on Oct 30th, 2009

This is such a stupid and untrue article. Let me tell you something. Knowledge is a beautiful thing, I think it’s an important part of life whether it’s academic or not. But in life I think humanity is the most important thing. I think you learn the most from the relationships you build in your life. In fact I don’t just think this- it’s true. You can learn and study all you want but you won’t gain anything from it without opinion, without perspective, with out other people.

Okay and your advice. Don’t mingle until second semester, remain hidden the first two weeks of school and only be noticed in class? Okay in actuality it’s never too late to make friends, but unless you are super confident, great in social situations, and have no problems talking to other people you will be SCREWED if you don’t try and make friends until second semester, because lets face it most of us aren’t that type A perfect easy-to-make-friends type of person.

In REAL life, if you spend your first two weeks in your dorm and not getting to know your suitemates, floor mates, and other students around your dorm building, people are going to think you are isolating them, people are going to be like “what the hell is wrong with them? too good for us? socially awkward?” And because we’re all in college alot of us will feel compelled to still invite that person to have dinner with us at the dining hall or go out for the night, but if those efforts fail and you say no after already isolating everyone in the first place, your chances are shot. I have seen it happen so many times, and my freshman year that happened to me. Those first two weeks are VERY important.

And to honestly think that every single kid that goes to college goes around partying, screwing and failing their classes? I have been MOTIVATED by most of my friend’s in college because I look at them and they are happy, confident, making tons of friends, studying hard, getting good grades, going out, having fun and moving ahead.

It’s college. No one gives a f—- if you’re mysterious, no one wonders who you are if you keep to yourself, the only thing that’s happening is people are building friendships, a new social circle and you are missing out, and next semester comes and you are super home sick, want to give up and go home because you forgot to make friends. How do I know? I’m a living example. If you are going to a new place where you don’t know anyone, you will not do well in school because you are lonely and have no one to call up on the weekends to hang out. You won’t fill the void of socialization with studying, you’ll be too depressed.

You want to be cool in college? Simple. Move in, immediately introduce yourself to your room mate, your suite mates, your dorm mates, go to orientation, go to campus events, go to games, make your first impression, make the foundation for future friendships, hit the books, no matter what GO TO CLASS, get to know your teachers, don’t be afraid to get help or use your school’s tutoring services, go out on the weekends, have fun, go to parties, date, if you make mistakes it’s totally fine learn from them, this is your time, grow, make smart decisions. Is it just as important to say no to a night of drinking to study for a test on monday as it is to accept an invitation to go out the night you decided to stay in and do nothing by yourself? Yes.

The hardest thing to do in college is adjust to being alone, and trying to make friends again, trying to create a new support system, a new “family” away from home, it’s pretty stupid to suggest someone restricts themselves from doing this because in the end it makes college VERY hard. If someone wants to be successful in life and do well in their classes, they will, and that’s that. But if you forget to make SOME sort of social life for yourself in your new life away at school, good luck getting through college.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Oct 31st, 2009

Pretending you are in college and can read….
this is what I wrote….

…….For the first two weeks, don’t mingle, hide. If you live in a dorm, stay in your room, if you live off campus, the only place you might be seen is a study venue and then rarely as you usually go directly home. Stay inside studying, reading ahead, learning everything you can. It’s all study all the time…..

This is what you WROTE:

Don’t mingle until second semester…..

taking a subsequent paragraph where I mention joining various clubs and student organisations in the Second Semester.

There’s a difference between Two weeks and the Second Semester…yes?

This is what I wrote;

People might invite you to places, don’t turn them down, just don’t go. Not in the first two weeks. You need to do your work so that you are always ahead of the rest of the class. Focus on your work.

This is what you wrote:

” And because we’re all in college alot of us will feel compelled to still invite that person to have dinner with us at the dining hall or go out for the night, but if those efforts fail and you say no after already isolating everyone in the first place, your chances are shot.”

Are you beginning to appreciate you either;

a) have a serious problem with reading comprehension…which will surely effect your college situation
b) are attacking because you don’t need to know what someone else is saying, you just need to object to it?

What is the problem being on your own?

You are in college to L E A R N. It isn’t day camp, it is not play school. If you are homesick it means you are too young to leave home and should go back to Mommy until you are old enough to deal with college.

You prove this paragraph;

When it comes to social interaction everything you are going to experience in your first two years at college is bogus. People are there to experiment with personalities, fad with causes, and have sexual experiences. The most radical, wild, committed ‘revolutionary’ may grow up to be a stockbroker. Hence, don’t take freshmen too seriously.

Now you can make your best friends and a psuedo family and go to everything and be a friend to everyone; but you won’t be cool…you’ll be thought of as one of those people who has to be everywhere and do everything.

cool n smart girl, posted this comment on Nov 10th, 2009

HAH!
This is advice on how to be a nerd lol. At least label it “How to get good grades in college” not be a total hermit-dork. I’m a straight A student going to university next year and I know college can be hectic but I have TONS of college friends who have fun and do well in school. Your obviously a BIG nerd so sorry some of us want to get high, get drunk and have a real relationship. You don;t make sense first you say fool around then you say dont so I’m sorry you were/are the biggest dork in your college.

A. Fool, posted this comment on Nov 10th, 2009

Let’s see…you are going to University … so obviously you think you know more than someone who has been. Let’s see what is going to happen? You will come in as if you’ve just arrived at summer camp. You will begin screwing around and being screwed around as fresh meat. You’ll start getting drunk and high because you start to feel crummy about yourself…there you were, an A student at High School, a C student at University, considered the Dorm Punch.

Meanwhile, down the hall the ‘dork’ has done her work, read ahead, and when everyone is tired of you, she’s got the crew.
She’s ‘new’. She’s ‘differen’t’ . You’re no mystery.

The first two weeks of college is when all the Soph boys try to have sex with as many Frosh girls as possible. Don’t worry, you won’t be left out.