Is it so stressful to be an adolescent? How do the parents help you to solve the problems? Most of the teens, they always think of are they handsome/ pretty? Are they trendy? Are they smart? If you were parents, you should try to encourage them but not insult them. Here are my suggestions:

1. Emotions

   Most of the teens, including me, are not able to control their emotion expression. For examples, disappointment and embarrassment are most commonly happened on teenagers and also mainly the teen will only express their feeling by anger.

  Parents can identify his children feelings, and to find appropriate responses by asking “Are you feeling disappointed?” Also parents should not feel worried. It is good if you can encourage them and give them suggestions by helping them to find a suitable sport to deal with their unstable emotions.

2. Self-Esteem

  Basically, self-esteem does not only do the teens worry about their appearance, but also they will think of why do the others have these expensive things, but I do not? Lets talk about the appearance first.

  Teens always worry about the changing of body shape, the pimples on their faces, hair in unlikely places, etc. Parents should not try to laugh at your child’s appearance. Though it seems ridiculous or funny to you, they feel angry! Once again, the most powerful potion to increase your child’s self-esteem is to encourage them. The more the encouragement you give, the higher the self-esteem they will have.

3. Communication

  Parents will extraordinary worry that why their teens changed from a cheerful, talkative child to a silent and shy teen? In fact, you don’t need to be so worry.

  Teens want privacy. Leave some privacy to them is a good idea. They dose not changes into a shy teen, but feels confused. As I have told you in the last articles, communication plays an important role other than eating or drinking. So, what are the effective communications?

  First, spend more time with your teen to care of his/her daily activities, hobbies, etc. Second, listen to his point of views and ideas, give comments if they want. Third, show your interest listening to their feelings or views. Lastly, try to use “I” to begin a conversation. For example, “I’m really worried about your academic results.”. And don’t say “Your academic result is really poor!!!!!”

4. Strange behavior

  Strange behaviors include smoking, taking drugs, or coming home late. If you think or suspect they have done the following things. First you have to calm down. Try to find out more evidence. Do always give advise and support them in the positive side(not giving money for them to buy cigarettes). If you cannot handle this problem, find a social worker or you can ask for the school to help you. If the problem becomes severe, you should ask for the police help.

  For coming home late, there are a few reasons. For example, they have duty after schools; they have to help their teachers. On the other hand, they may go shopping with their friends, or stay at the others homes. Nevertheless, you should understand that they have grown up; they know how to take care of themselves. And hey know what to do, or what should not do. But most important is that you have to set some rules, to make them become a responsible man. For example you can set tat you should come back home by 5.30pm, or if you have any duty at school, you have to tell me in the morning or at recess time.

  For smoking, prevent is better than stop, just like cigarette. Nicotine is extremely addictive. But is it difficult to avoid your teen from smoking? No. Just look at the following points. First, remind your teenager how expensive smoking is. Teens are always afraid of expensive things, because, they could not afford them. Second, talk about the danger of smoking. Third, develop them some healthy habits, just like sports, music, arts, etc. Last, you can tell them smoking will not let you feel relieved, but it will make you feel bear a great burden.

  For drug abuse, first you can encourage teens to make a sensible choices. Remind them, taking drugs is illegal and will be arrested or sent to jail. Second, you can avoid your teens taking drugs by telling them you can relieve your stress by talking with us, or telling them an instantaneous of happy will be demolished once you do not intake the drug. Last, telling them drug will damage you health. There are many diseases if you intake drugs for a long period of time.

  As you can see, parents can make your teens life become fruitful and memorable. Let’s begin to create a colorful life for your teens.