This is for all you boys out there who like a girl but are too dense to realize she likes you back. Don’t’ feel alone, you are far from it. In fact, there are so many oblivious boys out there it’s a surprise girls ever get dates! We should probably just start walking around with sandwich boards that tell guys how we feel.

Girls cannot be expected to do all of the work in starting a relationship. This should be fun and exciting for both of you, not something that turns your hair grey just thinking about it.

So you are getting to know a new girl, or perhaps an old friend but in a new way and you start to realize that you want her as more than a friend. You don’t like it when other guys check her out and you like it even less when she flirts with other guys. Put bluntly, you know you like her but aren’t sure if she likes you. There are many, many signs, most of them brutally obvious, but as a human being you are always second guessing yourself. Here are some of the most obvious signs to look for:

-You’re standing with a group of people; where are her feet pointing? in which direction are her shoulders facing? We all subconsciously orient our body in the direction to which our attention is pulled, even if her head is facing the speaker.

-When you’re talking with her one on one, does she take any and all opportunities to touch you? Maybe to straighten your collar, brush crumbs off your shirt or even to ruffle your hair?

-Does she take every opportunity to be around you? Walking with you in the halls, eating lunch with you, getting to know your friends?

-Is she taking an interest in your hobbies?

-Does she emphasis the similarities between the two of you? Ex: You play W.o.W? OMG me too!

-If you ask her to hang out, even casually and she agrees, this means she most likely wants to give you a chance. If she tries to make it a group event, she just isn’t that in to you.

If any combinations of the above points are applicable to you and your crush, chances are you might actually have a chance with her. She is probably too nervous to step up and ask you out so it’s time to man-up and actually talk to her.

When people tell you the worst thing that can happen is that she says ‘no’, they are absolutely wrong. She can make fun of you, call you cruel names and tell all her friends about you. But if she is the kind of girl to do this, she is really not the kind of girl you want to be dating in the first place.

No matter what her response is, at least after asking you will have closure. If she says yes, then you’re moving in an exciting new direction. If she says no, it’s over. You can move on and never wonder if you missed out on an opportunity.

If you are falling for her and think she might feel the same, the best thing you can do is talk to her. Communication is vital for all forms of relationships, even just friendship.

So, in short, watch for the signs, trust your gut, man-up and talk to her; it is so worth it in the end.