With sexual illnesses such as chlamydia on the increase, it seems so do the levels of unprotected sex. Every year there are more and more cases of regretted sex under the influences of drugs and alcohol. That’s not to say that sex is a bad thing – it is what brought you and i into the world, but surely loosing your virginity should be a special, pleasurable experience, not a regretted, traumatic one! So maybe it is a bit naive to think that we all have soul mates and ‘the one’ is out there somewhere, but surely your first time should be with someone you love, trust and know reasonably well! Non-virgins often pretend to be virgins, because of the sexual appeal it brings – sexual innocence – once lost can never truly be regained. You can catch STDs, become pregnant and have deeply felt regrets! A night of sex is natural and enjoyable, but so should the morning after be! Nobody likes to wake up next to someone a great deal older and uglier, so just beware of the risks! Under the rose-tinted glasses of alcohol, anyone can look attractive! And i mean anyone! You see that disgusting chav over there – once you are under the influence of alcohol – they will become your prince charming! But no fairytale lasts forever and after midnight strikes, you will be an all the more wiser and sadder person, so don’t do it! That’s not to say don’t do it at all, but be careful! Think about things! Do you really love him? Do you feel pressured into having sex with him? Are you just doing this to make him like you/impress him? If the answer is yes to the last two questions, then don’t do it with him! Make love to someone much more deserving, who loves and cares about you! When you are in your dying days and you look back on your life, do you want to have to try and block the distorted, but also only too clear images of your first time – sex with a needy, desperate young man, who wouldn’t stop calling you for months afterwards! Be wise. Think smart! Value yourself. Respect yourself! If you love him and he loves you and you think you’re ready, use protection! Don’t have sex under the influence of alcohol – it’s not pretty and you will surely vomit afterwards! Or drugs – you won’t truly enjoy the experience to the full! So basically my overriding messages are; have sex, but be safe. Think before you drink. Love him, before you touch him. Respect yourself, or he sure as likely won’t! Remember, you can only lose your virginity once!