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How do we deal with our children at the teenage?

Teenage is the most dangerous and most difficult stages experienced by most of us, where it’s make the final formation of personality.  This stage is characterized by features of the old hold substantial differences in the orientation and disturbancesin the senses and emotions. In the past, this stage  passed quietly without any problems except some Physical changes result of hormones, and some behaviors such as moderate excess emotions, while now with the advance of modernity and changes associated in the life and began to have trouble in dealing with them…

How do we deal with the teenagers?.

The simplest answer to this question is; Train ourselves to the relative calm in dealing with them and access to their world,then we can have good vision through the ratification and approach of their mind and thinking  …

Teenagers  needs friends more than their family whom tied their freedom with its instruction and revolve all their ideas and confined to the error and correct, while friends are urging  to experience himself and leaves his rule and choice …Experience is the master of the situation …

Friendship is something essential to all of us. and more important to teenagers, so we must deal with them as a friend all the time and guidance on that basic  and avoid to the deal with him as a parent or reformer of his actions so as not to lose confidence in us and his distaste for us.

The question now is :

                How we can  enter in the mind of the teenager?

It is not easy to deceive him,because he has the highest degree of intelligence at this age. Science has proving that the mind works quickly and efficiently in a period of teenage. So we should take advantage of this mental energy and trying to employing  it well in the right place.

We can do that by the following:

                           1 -  Devote some of ours time to sitting  with them and listen to whatever they have to say and engage in dialogue with moderation,that is important to give them a sense of its importance as an individual in the family and never deals with them child . this step well create a confidence in themselves.  .
                              2 – Allowing  more freedom, not an absolute to spend their times with friends outside of the house.family ought to a good knowledge of  their friends by inviting them to  occasions social and attempt to discover their affiliations and beliefs … friend is mirror to his friend…
                      3 -  Giving them adequate space to express their opinions and ideas, even if they are inconsistent with our views. on observing that the teenager always   follows  policy ” Did the opposite ” as an attempt to draw attention to his opinions and force the other to respect it.

                          4 – Educating ourselves  some knowledge so we can be able to answer all inquiries and questions which going through  in their minds and expect us to answer them . if we can’t given  answer to their inquiry then they will found it by explore it themselves which exposes them to fall into some troubles .

                          5 -Thinking a bout the best  method to dump excess energy they have, such as practice  sporting activities and technical which they liked and we must encourage and sharing their interests .

If we do that we’ll helping them to passing  across this stage in safety and we can have a happy life …