Some of us have already raised our kids.

The kids have now either moved out, moved out and brought back other peoples children to live at home too (ie. boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife and kids)
Married and bought their own place.

Course that is neither here nor there.

What is a grave concern to all parents these days is “sex” and “drugs” No I am not an expert by any means. I have raised 3 sons and didn’t do such a bad job at it (My thoughts only) They turned out to be honest, respectable young men. With good jobs.

Feather in my cap, huh??? Was my approach to raising them correct? With the way Social Services spoke to me a few times when I asked for assistance, I doubt it. Did the best I could with what I had.

Now back to reality instead of traveling back in time.

Sex:

Most of us dread that topic when it comes time.

Do really know when the correct time is? I mean when do you actually start to approach your child (or visa versa) to broach this subject.? Do we just sit on the fence and pray it never comes up??? What is the proper age? Pre-Teen ??? Teenager??? When???

How Involved Should One Get

Here I figured that cause I had boys it would be simple ha, ha, ha. Not My warped thinking made me wrong. Hubby refused to do it.

At what age I started to discuss Sex I can no longer recall. (Must be old timers) I do though remember the conversations. You would have thought all the friends parents never discussed it with their kids. I always ended up with a table of full of pre teens and teenagers sitting around asking questions about everything.

Think some of the kids were more embarrassed than I was. From Sex to Aids the topics flew Nothing was forbidden.

There was only one time I was in total shock Not over what was stated but from who’s mouth it came out of. My youngest son was 13 at the time. We going over the conversation of condoms when my youngest feeling cocky as ever. Oops, bad choice of words. Reached into his back pocket and said Not to worry Mom condoms have expiry dates now. He threw some at me and said See for yourself Yes total Shock!!! I was at a loss for words. My baby!!!

As I we went over the subject of the dreaded topic I made sure they were well aware of being held accountable and responsible for each of their actions.
It takes two tango and it takes to make and raise a child. Women are not the only ones who are to be held accountable or responsible.

All actions have a reaction. If you are Man/Women enough to behave like adults then you shall be treated as adults. You will get a job you will pay/raise/ partake of every aspect of the baby growing up.

Oh I was probably wrong and I do got a lot of flack from some parents about the discussions we used to have.

I had big shoulders but I knew damn well the kids knew what they were getting into. In closing, I warned all the boys/girls that we were too educated to fall for the old trick, “If I don’t relieve myself, it will fall off.”

Yea right!!!